Police on Dec. 1 arrested a 74-year-old Stamford man by warrant after he threatened to kill his girlfriend and, two days later, squeezed the victim until her ribs hurt and refused to stop, documents show.
On Oct. 28, police were dispatched to Dunkin’ on Elm Street to meet with a complainant regarding a possible physical incident that had occured two days earlier, according to an arrest warrant application obtained by NewCanaanite.com through a public records request.
There, the complainant told police that the victim had notified a town employee about the physical altercation, and the municipal worker then notified the New Canaan Police Department, according to an affidavit filed by Officer Clinton Jarvis with the arrest warrant application. That application was signed Oct. 30 by a state Superior Court judge.
According to the victim, her boyfriend had been at her apartment on Oct. 27 along with her and her son, a juvenile, “when the victim’s son had a nightmare.”
“Victim said that she left [the man] in the bedroom to go lay with her son to console him and [he] followed her in the room,” the affidavit said. “She stated that [the man] wrapped his arms around her and squeezed her tightly causing her to feel pain in her ribs. Victim said that she asked [him] to stop and let her go but he did not. She said that [he] held her in this manner for approximately 3-4 hours after she already asked him to stop.”
The woman asked for medical attention to check her ribs for injuries, the arrest warrant application said, and New Canaan EMS evaluated her on scene. She declined to be transported to the hospital, it said.
After being treated on scene, the victim “advised that she did not want [the man] around her or her son going forward because she felt that he was jealous of her son, and she feared that he would hurt him eventually,” Jarvis said in the arrest warrant application.
It continued: “I asked Victim if [the man] has ever hurt her son and she said, ‘No but he scratched his neck while trying to pick Juvenile up from the floor.’ Victim then added that on 10/25/2025 [the man] said that he would ‘kill her’ in front of the Juvenile. I asked Victim what made [the man] say that. She said she did not know but followed up by saying that [the man] said he was joking with her and they hung out the following day without issue.”
Authorities then administered a Domestic Lethality Screening in which the victim scored high, Jarvis said in the affidavit.
“Due to the high screening she did speak to a domestic violence representative over the phone while on scene,” he said.
The same day, Jarvis contacted the man and told him that he was not allowed to contact the victim. He agreed, the affidavit said.
“When I asked [the man] about the incidents with Victim he stated that he has never hurt her and would never hurt Victim or her son,” the application said. “[The man] stated that on 10/27/2025, Victim’s son was having an emotional episode and laid on the floor refusing to get up. He stated that Victim attempted to pick up the Juvenile from the floor but could not and in the process hurt her back and complained of back pain and pain to her sides. [The man] said that he also attempted to help her pick the Juvenile up off the floor and hurt his back, too.”
While talking to the man, Jarvis asked if he had ever said anything to the victim that could be considered threatening and he said “no.”
“I then asked him if he ever told Victim or her son that he would kill her and he stated, ‘No, and if I did I was probably joking around,’ ” the arrest warrant application said.
Police charged him with second-degree threatening and third-degree assault, serving the warrant in Stamford at about 10:30 a.m. on Dec. 1. He was processed at police headquarters in New Canaan. Police released the man on $2,500 bond and scheduled him to appear the following day in state Superior Court. He has not yet pleaded, according to Connecticut Judicial Branch records, and is now scheduled for arraignment Jan. 29.
The Domestic Violence Crisis Center in Stamford provides services, support and education for the prevention and elimination of domestic violence. Its 24-hour hotline is 888-774-2900. To reach DVCC offices during regular business hours, the number is 203-588-9100. Services are free and confidential, multilingual and multicultural. Here’s a podcast with the organization’s executive director.