Police last week arrested a 45-year-old New Canaan man by warrant after receiving multiple reports of violent abuse, court records show.
The victim told authorities that he pointed a gun at her while she was at the man’s Parade Hill Road home last October following an event in New York City, according to an arrest warrant application filed by New Canaan Police and signed July 22 by a state Superior Court judge.
While being chauffeured home that night, the pair—a couple for about two years—had an argument about the man’s ex-girlfriend, the application said. As it unfolded, he “swung his phone and hit Victim in her face” and then “wrapped his arm around her neck in order to restrain her,” she told authorities in an interview last month, according to the warrant application, obtained by NewCanaanite.com.
At about 3 a.m. the following morning, “Victim was attempting to remove her luggage from [the man’s] residence when he pointed a gun at her,” the police affidavit said.
The man told the victim that he’d obtained the gun—long and black with a laser—“from a Navy SEAL and it can shoot a certain distance” and “you are not leaving,” the affidavit said. He then “chased her around the house until she laid on the floor crying,” it said.
More recently, on April 29 (a Monday), the victim was using the man’s iPad at his house when she came across “videos of herself performing a consensual sexual act” with the man, though she hadn’t given her permission to film it, the application said. Confronted about the videos, he said “he would break the dog’s neck” if she left, it said.
“While Victim was waiting for an Uber, [the man] grabbed her in the face and pulled on her nose,” it said. “Victim stated it ‘hurt really bad’ and caused her to bleed from her nose. Victim stated [the man] was aware she recently had a rhinoplasty.”
Police also were provided with recorded phone conversations between the victim and man, as well as between her and a private investigator who’d called her on the man’s behalf. The PI told the woman that it would be “pointless” to file a complaint about the phone incident from last october.
During the recorded call with the man, the victim discussed the April assault, saying, “So you grabbed my two week rhinoplasty noise and rip it, and try to rip it off my face, and call me fat because I was leaving?” To which the man replied, “Being nice wasn’t working.” (A letter from the woman’s plastic surgeon confirmed that, post-operation, her “septum was broken and left lateral cartilage was depressed.”
Police confirmed that the man had an active protective order against him that prohibited him from possessing or purchasing a firearm or ammunition. Police are “in the process of obtaining a search warrant for the contents of the iPad,” the application said. (It wasn’t immediately clear if that warrant has been obtained.)
The man met with police July 2, with his criminal defense attorney, and “provided [a] pre-written unsworn statement that denied the above claims.” He also refused to answer any questions, police said.
He was charged with third-degree assault and two counts of disorderly conduct. He was released on $75,000 bond and scheduled to appear Oct. 1.
According to Connecticut Judicial Branch records, the man was charged in 2020 with second-degree breach of peace, in 2021 with violation of a protective order and in 2022 with violation of a protective order and disorderly conduct.
More information on the arrested party is available on the NCPD website.
The Domestic Violence Crisis Center in Stamford provides services, support and education for the prevention and elimination of domestic violence. Its 24-hour hotline is 888-774-2900. To reach DVCC offices during regular business hours, the number is 203-588-9100. Services are free and confidential, multilingual and multicultural. Here’s a podcast with the organization’s executive director.